You’re a Survivor
The Four Stages of Self-Awareness “framework” unveils how you respond to discomfort, and what you can do to live with intention. By asking this simple question, we can get to know a lot about ourselves. We can treat ourselves with more kindness, compassion, and love.
Before you review your results:
The Four Stages of Self-Awareness “framework”, describes a cycle, we all experience when facing discomfort. If you look hard enough at your life, you’ll discover moments when you behaved like a Lotus, Survivor, Warrior, or Phoenix.
Even though the stages move in a cycle, no stage is better or worse than another. Each stage teaches us something different about ourselves; they work together to help us become more self-aware. They help us learn how we currently act so we can decide how we WANT to act.
So what does it mean to be a Survivor?
The Survivor Stage symbolizes resilience, adaptability, and emotional toughness. Coming from the Lotus stage, Survivors can walk out of difficult situations feeling stronger, grounded, and balanced.
In other words,
The Survivor Stage recognizes your willingness to choose Yourself. As the second stage of self-awareness, you’re learning to accept how you respond to discomfort. You’re open to the idea that discomfort might have something to teach you about yourself.
At this stage, Survivors are starting to let down their guard against discomfort, because they feel tired of resisting it.
… this is normal.
Because Survivors are noticing how physically draining it is to fight the discomfort they feel and have a life at the same time.
They want to be kinder to themselves, creative and tap deeper into their overall power, but often feel far from it, because they struggle to take action when discomfort shows up. Survivors know they can show up for themselves and are eager to make it happen.
You are the embodiment of a Survivor.
What's Your Superpower?
The Power to Accept
Survivors have a deep desire to change, to release what doesn’t serve them. Even when feeling lost or stuck, they know in their heart that they can be more present in their lives, feel stronger in their voice, and enjoy flourishing relationships even when they feel uncomfortable.
Survivors want to understand more about themselves. They want to make time to read, dance, grow, all while positively impacting their relationships.
Survivors want to walk in their fullest purpose, enjoying a life packed with abundance. Their Power to Accept how they respond when feeling discomfort is their secret weapon to living the life they deserve and honor what they truly need to carve out more space for “me time.”
Key Takeaway
If Survivors want to change and remain grounded in the presence of any discomfort, they must harness their power as often as they can.
Because sometimes, Survivors can forget that before we change our reality, we must accept our reality.
The Two Types of Survivors
Potential Challenges
There are two types of Survivors: the Reactive Survivor and The Responsive Survivor.
The Reactive Survivor tends to reject parts of their reality, struggles with taking responsibility, and gets flustered at any sight of discomfort. The Responsive Survivor, on the other hand, accepts their current reality, willingly takes responsibility, and actively chooses to accept how they respond to discomfort with compassion.
Most people go back and forth between the two. If you’re reading this, you’re currently a Responsive Survivor!
For the most part, Survivors struggle with having a clear direction for their lives. This is especially true if they do not feel like they are making an impact. They want to feel like they are making progress, and their time is managed well. When feeling like this, it is a sign that Survivors are more reactive than responsive.
This frustration, it’s usually a sign that Survivors haven’t forgiven themselves for the consequences of their choices. Without self-forgiveness, they constantly punish themselves for the “mistakes” they’ve made in the past. Without acknowledging that those “mistakes” were necessary lessons to get them where they want to be.
Key Takeaway
It’s important to know that Survivors can move beyond these potential challenges. They can become the architects of their lives, be at peace with themselves and genuinely feel happy not wearing a mask. It all comes to practicing self-forgiveness.
Helpful Next Steps
If Survivors want to get a clear direction for their lives, they must start with self-forgiveness, the source of their inner peace, joy and eventually fulfillment – a powerful tool to help you face discomfort with ease.
When Survivors practice self-forgiveness they become more confident in their ability to make the right decision and get clear on the direction they want for their lives. They are able to focus on the lessons they’ve learned without feeling guilt or shame.
Survivors tend to resist this process because they don’t know where to begin. Like cleaning a closet for the first time in years, they may feel overwhelmed, confused, and uninterested.
The best place to start is by owning your story. Yes, including the parts that you may not like.
Here’s my simple 4 step-by-step method to embrace self-forgiveness and get started. Yes, answering these questions might feel a little uncomfortable, that’s ok, try it anyway!
- Where are you judging yourself the most right now? (ex: my healing, career, romantic relationships, friendships, family, etc.)
- What is it about this specific area of your life, that makes you feel “bad”, “angry” “frustrated”? (ex: ignoring my intuitions, putting others above my needs, silencing my voice, etc.)
- What are five things you’ve learned from experiencing this situation? (ex: I can take action, I’m stronger than I think, I’m willing to uncomfortable, etc.)
- How has this experience positively impacted your life and brought you closer to the person you want to be? (ex: made me kinder, compassionate, appreciative, grateful, etc.)
Bonus: For the next 30 days – focus on writing down one thing you learned from your “mistakes” and one reason you’re grateful for that.
Key Takeaway
When we take time to own our story, including the parts we do not like, we can see our growth in a kinder way. By focusing on what we’ve learned, we don’t view mistakes as failures, instead as key elements of growth bringing us closer to the person we want to be.
That’s how we unleash our most authentic self, even when feeling discomfort.
The 4 stages of self-awareness explains how we respond in the presence of discomfort.
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MEET YOUR GUIDE
I believe that mastering your self-awareness is the KEY to unlocking your dream life. So I am committed to helping release limiting beliefs, and patterns that keep you from feeling a sense of fulfillment, or wholeness.
I went from feeling depressed, lost and disoriented for 8 months to living my dream life, helping ambitious souls get a clear direction for their lives, take action with confidence and feel more joy & long-lasting inner peace.
I developed the Four Stages of Self-Awareness framework as a faster, natural and intuitive process for getting on the driver seat of your life, making decisions rooted in what truly unleashes your most authentic self
I show you how to build the bridge between you and your dream life – by closely identifying the gaps that need to be filled.
I’m also a reading addict, tea-drinking, pole dancer obsessed with Dragon Ball Z and all things leading to authentic self-mastery!
Hasta Luego,
With love,
PS: Prior to starting my own business, I was a Director of Communications advocating for worker rights at the National Association of Workforce Boards and served with college prep for underrepresented students at the Harlem Children’s Zone.